I forgot my friend's birthday
I knew two best friends who used to study in my college with me. They were simply one of the best friends in the college. They could do anything for each other as we all know what a best friend can do. Their names were Manu and Kristine, one was Indian and the other from London, and both of them were studying communication as an international student.
It was their friendship day I remember, not the one which the world celebrates, but the one when these two friends became best friends.
Anyways, I remember when Manu called me up that she would like me to go with her to buy a gift for her friend. It was around 11 in the morning when she called me, and I was busy, but I confirmed her we will go at around 4 in the evening. I told her I will pick her up from my way to home. And she was just waiting for me. We went to pacific mall in Markham, which was just close by. Roaming here and there, Manu chose an antique anklet for her friend, which at that time cost her $90. She was so excited about it, I couldn’t even imagine. I could see the vibrant glow in her face. She called up Kristine to meet her at a restaurant at 8 PM, but she denied for some reason. And all vibrant faded away, I felt. And then nothing was left for her, except to drop her home, which I did at 6 PM.
It was the next morning, our college, and we both were waiting for Kristine in the cafeteria. She came in as she would everyday, greeted me and tried to hug Manu. And angrily Manu said that how could she forget their friendship day. And I knew how Kristine was, she wouldn’t accept this kind of nature from Manu, and it was the time to breakup their friendship. And it did.
We see this everyday in our life. Someone is breaking with someone, without any string reason. Was Manu wrong? Was Kristine right? We have so many words to explain who was right and who was wrong. Instead I think I should focus more on the base, understanding relations.
I am not that good in memory; I tend to forget things, dates, anything, not very well. I used to forget our friendship day every year. My best friend is a girl, and it is said that girls are very sentimental about dates. I forgot our friendship day many times, but my best friend never uttered a word on me. If girls are sentimental about dates and if they would be mad as hell, then Manu and Kristine were also two girls. Why was Manu sentimental and Kristine not? That means it is not true for women. One factor only, understanding the relations. Why won’t my best friend make a hell out of this kind of situation when I forget our friendship day, it is because she understands the concept of understanding. It is a process to know each other, and after spending so much of time if we haven’t known each other a lot, then it is a waste of time developing that relationship.
Though it is about care, but should we forget “understanding” process also? I would think of my best friend how simple she is in dealing relations. She would care for me though, and I should also show care from my side. Life is too busy now, we don’t remember what happened on which dates. Because we can’t remember so many dates of our friend’s birthday, their anniversaries, their special made days, etc. In today’s world we have so many options to remember the dates of my loved ones, my relatives, using the internet. Add their birth dates, anniversary dates, or any other special recurring events. I have never remembered any special dates of my relatives, but I am using my yahoo mail to remind me.
It is very important to show others that we do care of them, for they expect us to. And if they expect us to, then definitely we should try to find out the solution. Relationship never ends, only thing you need is “understanding” to keep your relationship healthy.
It was their friendship day I remember, not the one which the world celebrates, but the one when these two friends became best friends.
Anyways, I remember when Manu called me up that she would like me to go with her to buy a gift for her friend. It was around 11 in the morning when she called me, and I was busy, but I confirmed her we will go at around 4 in the evening. I told her I will pick her up from my way to home. And she was just waiting for me. We went to pacific mall in Markham, which was just close by. Roaming here and there, Manu chose an antique anklet for her friend, which at that time cost her $90. She was so excited about it, I couldn’t even imagine. I could see the vibrant glow in her face. She called up Kristine to meet her at a restaurant at 8 PM, but she denied for some reason. And all vibrant faded away, I felt. And then nothing was left for her, except to drop her home, which I did at 6 PM.
It was the next morning, our college, and we both were waiting for Kristine in the cafeteria. She came in as she would everyday, greeted me and tried to hug Manu. And angrily Manu said that how could she forget their friendship day. And I knew how Kristine was, she wouldn’t accept this kind of nature from Manu, and it was the time to breakup their friendship. And it did.
We see this everyday in our life. Someone is breaking with someone, without any string reason. Was Manu wrong? Was Kristine right? We have so many words to explain who was right and who was wrong. Instead I think I should focus more on the base, understanding relations.
I am not that good in memory; I tend to forget things, dates, anything, not very well. I used to forget our friendship day every year. My best friend is a girl, and it is said that girls are very sentimental about dates. I forgot our friendship day many times, but my best friend never uttered a word on me. If girls are sentimental about dates and if they would be mad as hell, then Manu and Kristine were also two girls. Why was Manu sentimental and Kristine not? That means it is not true for women. One factor only, understanding the relations. Why won’t my best friend make a hell out of this kind of situation when I forget our friendship day, it is because she understands the concept of understanding. It is a process to know each other, and after spending so much of time if we haven’t known each other a lot, then it is a waste of time developing that relationship.
Though it is about care, but should we forget “understanding” process also? I would think of my best friend how simple she is in dealing relations. She would care for me though, and I should also show care from my side. Life is too busy now, we don’t remember what happened on which dates. Because we can’t remember so many dates of our friend’s birthday, their anniversaries, their special made days, etc. In today’s world we have so many options to remember the dates of my loved ones, my relatives, using the internet. Add their birth dates, anniversary dates, or any other special recurring events. I have never remembered any special dates of my relatives, but I am using my yahoo mail to remind me.
It is very important to show others that we do care of them, for they expect us to. And if they expect us to, then definitely we should try to find out the solution. Relationship never ends, only thing you need is “understanding” to keep your relationship healthy.
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